Ice cream on top of a Big Brownie"

Its amazing to me how much all of us are the same. We all want love and security. We want to be treasured and adored, and most of the time we look to people to be our source of validation. We were created to need, created to desire these things, to want to be fulfilled. There is no sense in denying it. I know people personally that claim to "not be needy", but I think its the people who think they don't need are the ones who need the most, they just aren't honest with themselves. In reality, we are made by God to be needy creatures. But He wants us to be needy of Him, and Him alone. This doesn't mean we walk through life with an independent "I don't need people" spirit, it means we find absolute fulfillment in God, and whatever else He puts in our life thats an extension of His all consuming, all fulfilling love for us (friends, family, etc.) is an OVERFLOW of an already full cup. Our cups should be filled to the brim with peace, security, and overall comfort in what God thinks of us. And we should be thankful for the wonderful relationships He puts in our lives, enjoying friendships as they are without putting so much pressure on them because they aren't what "fills our cup"....they are the overflow,the blessings God gives us so that His love can be displayed through them.

How I myself have looked to people to determine my role in life, my source of validation, when they, by their natural design, cannot be! They are mere humans, as I am, and we let our insecurities and second guessing spoil our relationships by trying to fit the person into the wrong role. A square (person) cannot fit into a round hole (God). And if we all were secure in God and thought of ourselves like God thought of us, looked to Him to know who we are in life, think of how our relationships would flourish! We would be able to enjoy each other without being tossed around with the waves. Our human behavior is all over the place, and when we dwell with God, the almighty rock and fortress, all of a sudden others' behavior (and even our own behavior!) doesn't rule or consume us! The we are freed up to show people (and ourselves) grace and not live our lives making judgements of other people, because we are secure in God. Because we know who we are, we now can see other people as they are.

And when my sweet, sweet, loveable and endearing friend, that I treasure so much that she can hardly know, shares her heart with me in a much needed phone conversation, I realized how much the same person not only she and I are, but people in general. Our feelings are not wrong (God put them in us!).....its our application of the feeling. We all want to be loved, so if we let ourselves be loved by God to the point of absolute fulfillment, we won't have to depend upon the love that comes from people to make us whole. We will already be whole, and whatever additional love God wants to shower on us through the form of relationships, will only be what I would like to call " the ice cream on top of a big brownie"...it takes whats already good on its own and makes it even better. God is that good.